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Reason's Why You Should Say "No" More Often - She Leads Digital

Often, we find ourselves saying YES by reflex, because either we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings or we are too scared to say NO it is not in our nature to say no to others but learning to say no, and laying down limits are necessary.

Every day, weather you are an entrepreneur or intra-preneur, you are constantly assigned new tasks to accomplish: either direct orders from your boss, e-mails from potential partners or colleagues, invitations to meetings, networking events, conferences and let’s not forget the giant to-do list in which anyone is adding a task for you to accomplish.

In our everyday life, we face all kinds of demands, challenges, challenges and decisions. Sometimes, we sometimes throw ourselves with open arms and eyes closed into new project without any hesitation. While other times, good thinking is needed before moving forward with a decision.
So Why Do We Say “Yes” Too Often

There are two reasons why we tend to say “yes” too often.

Reason #1: you have not clearly defined your goals for the week. If you don’t set specific objectives and goals for yourself during the day or week, you put yourself in a situation.

You must be able to accurately answer the big question. What goals do you need to keep track of during the week? Do you know what you want to accomplish this week/month, your business, If you don’t have answers to this questions then you’re likely to say yes when saying no would serve you better.

Something that most successful entrepreneurs have in common when you read their books is they always know their goals.

You are saying always saying “YES” simply out of the fear of disappointing or hurting the person who asked you, this is the first thing you need to work on and change this way of thinking: in reality, accepting something you don’t want to do is not a sign of respect on the contrary: you actually risk disappointing the person by either not doing the task or doing it without motivation which often leads to sloppy work.


Instead take the time to decline a request or a favor and always explain the reasons why you are saying NO, you are showing the person that you respect his and your time and allow him to move quickly to something else.

Learning to say no know is actually all the more important because as you evolve in your career and life , the number of requests tends to increase exponentially. In theory, as your ability to absorb new tasks remains relatively stable, you must capable of declining more and more requests as the years go by and before saying yes to something, you really need to weigh the pros and cons: for a single yes, you will have to say no more than once so start preparing now.

Why Should Learn To Say NO?

Yes, sometimes, we have to say no … But why exactly? And the worst thing is it’s not easy to say those words, but like everything else in life … you can learn how to! You have to determine what you deserves a yes and what does not, to start saying no, you must become confident, respect yourself and your time and move forward with your choices. Give yourself a chance, try! You’ll see, it’s not that hard once you remove the fear and doubt.

So How Do You Start Saying NO

Even though your first approach to saying “no”, would be to ignore the request but out of the respect for the other person you need to answer them either by phone, email or in person? It’s up to you to see what’s the best way to communicate with the person to be clear and understood even if it’s just a simple NO that is always better than any lack of response on your part, but before saying no take the time to think about the situation/request. Once you give your answer you can’t say yes after and one thing you should ever do is come back on your decision. No is a no !

It’s also great to have concrete arguments in why you are saying no, do confuse this with justifying your answer though and also always finish your exchange on a good note. Just because you are saying no this time, you never know what might happen in the future.

Conclusion

Whether in your personal or professional life, you need to understand that you cannot please everyone, it’s up to you to say YES or NO but by learning how to say no if you want to move forward may not be as easy if you are used to saying yes all the time, but with practice and confidence in yourself you will eventually get there.


Whether in your personal or professional life, you need to understand that you cannot please everyone, it’s up to you to say YES or NO but by learning how to say no if you want to move forward may not be as easy if you are used to saying yes all the time, but with practice and confidence in yourself you will eventually get there.

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